Whether you’re in school or have a solid career, your addiction has made an impact on where you stand today. Unlike family and friends, your approach to how you handle your professional relationships can either help or hinder your future success.

In traditional in-patient treatment rehab, people are forced to either quit their job or beg their employers to keep them on while they go to inpatient treatment, which is a big ask. Some employers are in a position to do so and may encourage it as they definitely don’t want someone with a substance use disorder working or alcoholic employees as it creates poor job performance with an increase of workplace injuries, while other employers may not be in a position to help and by just bringing it up could cause you to lose your job. 

One study that was done by the National Library of Medicine, estimated that companies in the United States lose about 400 billion dollars per year annually, due to drug and alcohol related problems. Some of this is due to health care costs related to chronic disease or medical conditions caused by drug and alcohol abuse disorders such as liver disease or heart disease. This means that many employees may find the workplace policy difficult to navigate. 

A recent Hartford study showed that 52% of employers have dealt with substance misuse and addiction.

“The recent research from The Hartford is encouraging and shows U.S. employers are concerned for their employees’ mental health,” said NAMI’s CEO Gillison. “We are acutely aware that the need for mental health services is only increasing and reducing stigma in the workplace is paramount to improving the lives of employees. Mental health support in the workplace is a win-win for both workers and businesses.”

The last thing you need is to be stressed about health care costs, work or money when getting treatment for alcoholism or drug addiction. So it’s easy for these large in-patient facilities to welcome  you with open arms, give you high quality treatment but what good is that going to do after the fact if you go back and you are unemployed and have no money. That’s why being prepared is key to your success. Of course, if quitting your job is something you need to do to save your life then absolutely but if you have other options you can try first, then maybe those options are worth exploring. Not everyone needs in-patient rehab so if keeping your job is important then finding an alternative, something you can do online like here at Live Rehab might be a better approach. But that doesn’t mean work won’t be a struggle and it’s still important to know what to do in a professional environment. 

Reading the room – there is no one size fits all

When fighting an addiction there’s never a one size fits all category and that’s what makes professional working or educational relationships that much more complicated. Some people have great relationships with their co-workers and can trust confiding in them while others may put their careers in jeopardy by doing so. Some people work for companies where they are protected by a union, HR, or even have an Employee Assistance Program that can help, while others risk getting fired if their company found out about their addiction. Before saying anything to anyone, if that’s what you choose to do, it’s critical that you know the ramifications of doing so. It may help you to be honest or honesty may cause you to get fired on the spot. Does anyone even need to know about your alcohol consumption, heavy drinking habits, binge drinking, or substance abuse or will an explanation of your behavior portray you as honest and forthcoming? You need to read the room, know your rights, and understand all possible outcomes before taking any action. 

How to explain your drug or alcohol addiction as an employee

Everyone will fall into one of two categories when it comes to each professional relationship you have: you either tell them about your addiction or you don’t. With that being said, each professional relationship you have may need a different approach. Some people you may want to tell while others you may not want or need to tell. 

We talked earlier about reading the room and knowing your rights, understanding if it’s safe to talk about it or even necessary. Let me give you some examples.

Let’s say your workplace setting is a small organization with no HR, in a right to work state, and you’ve been struggling with a pornography addiction. Your addiction has caused you to lose focus on work. Part of you may want to talk to your boss to tell them you’re taking the steps now to fight your addiction but you’ll need to think about that decision and whether or not the risk is worth it. Don’t just think short term though like yes, you may lose your job but think long term. Would losing your job cause you to feel triggered and then have a relapse? In a case like this, it may not be a good idea to talk about your addiction.

Another example would be let’s say your workplace is a large organization that has an HR and maybe even a union. Let’s say  your addiction has been affecting your work, perhaps you have an unsteady gait or have had complaints about being under the influence of alcohol,  and you are in jeopardy of being fired. Some large organizations have Employee Assistance Programs programs or confidential support programs that can help and even protect you from getting fired if you’re honest and open.

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, SAMHSA, for example, partners with federal workplaces to provide drug-free workplaces which provides employee education as well as evidence-based prevention interventions or substance abuse treatment to address substance-related issues such as job drinking. These programs are help empower everyone to take action while still being able to hold each employee accountable for their performance. 

In a case like this it may be in your best to talk to somebody as there are options that would avoid disciplinary action.

There are lots of others in between scenarios to think about too. Some of you may not want to talk to anybody but may have an alcohol use disorder. Going out drinking at Happy Hour on Friday is part of company culture. In a case like this would you tell someone? That’s a tough judgement call but we recommend, when it comes to alcohol abuse to talk to your co-workers about you not drinking. Depending on your comfort level you can say you had a problem and you’re not drinking anymore or you can blame it on something else but not saying anything at all will give your co-workers a sudden cause for concern and speculation will only arise. Did she stop coming because she doesn’t like us? Nobody is a mind reader so being professional honest, when possible is a good policy to live by. 

Having Backup Plans in Your Pocket

You might be in a situation where you were partaking in your addiction with your classmates or co-workers but aren’t ready to tell them the whole truth and to be honest, when it comes to professional relationships it’s really none of their business why you stopped drinking or smoking or whatever. If you find yourself needing to have excuses because well, it’s the workforce and that’s just reality it’s a good idea to have backup plans always in your pocket. If a coworker you’re used to drinking with or smoking weed, or using cocaine with asks you to go out on Friday, if you’re not ready with a backup plan you may be tempted to go out, telling yourself you won’t partake. That’s a dangerous situation to be in. We recommend that for at least 30 days you don’t put yourself in a situation that can jeopardize your sobriety. So what kinds of things can you say?

Maybe you have family in town, have a birthday party to go to, have someone coming over to do work on your house, etc. Just make note of things and practice how to say them so you don’t get caught off the guard. The more practice you have the more natural it will feel. Don’t worry too much about the lying part. You have to do what you have to do in order to protect your sobriety. 

My favorite excuse is to use the health or medical one. I’m on medication that doesn’t allow me to drink, smoke, etc. Not many people will question that. 

After 30 days, you’ll notice that the pressure will calm down a bit but it will still be there. You can then decide where you’re at with everything and then slowly integrate yourself back into the professional yet social side of the workplace setting.  Perhaps after time you’ll get comfortable with just saying I don’t do xyz anymore. Your co-workers should respect you for that. 

Distancing Yourself from Toxicity for Your Health and Recovery

Toxic co-workers can cause so much distress and turmoil especially when tackling an addiction. We’ve all dealt with toxic co-workers or classmates at some point in our lives but when those toxic people start to interfere with workplace conditions such as job drinking, your job performance, sobriety or your ability to stay away from your addiction it’s important to recognize that and do what it takes to keep your distance. Toxicity doesn’t generally just go away on it’s own so waiting it out to see if things get better secretly hoping they quit or change schools or jobs  is never a good idea. If there is a person or people in your professional life who are making you miserable do whatever it takes to distance yourself. If that mean changing classes if you’re in school or changing departments at your work then take immediate action to do so. Your ability to fight your addiction and fight it for good depends on you having solid and healthy relationships and that includes professional relationships too. 

Your options and Employee Assistance Programs

You may be trying to fight your addiction but sometimes work or school is what consistently causes you to feel triggered or have a relapse. We talked about how to distance yourself from toxic coworkers or classmates but we also recognize that sometimes it’s not that easy. We also talked about being able to understand your rights, knowing what’s available and accessible to you and just having an overall sense of whether or not talking to others about your addiction will be safe. Now I want to talk to you about what to do if you feel like you have exhausted all of your options and you’re in position where someone, multiple people, or even the work itself is so stressful that you feel like if something doesn’t change drastically you may be putting your ability to fight your addiction, your sobriety or even your career on the line. Before it gets to that breaking point you may have to talk to someone. Now I don’t necessarily mean that you have to talk to someone about your addiction and that’s something that you’ll need to decide for yourself but what I am talking about is talking to someone about work related issues so that they can get resolved before it’s too late. It’s better to take action now because it doesn’t always get easier.

So if this is you and you’re really struggling at work or school start to think about who you can talk to, what you’re going to say, and when you can take action.

For example, let’s say you have an alcohol use disorder and you work for a medium sized firm. You have a small HR but overall get the feeling that nobody would really understand your addiction fully. Let’s say you have a co-worker who is constantly belittling you, stealing your work and overall just bringing on a negative vibe. If switching departments is not an option and you don’t feel like you can talk to your boss about it you may want to consider going to HR to see what your options are. All they need to know is how this person is affecting your ability to work and they would need concrete examples of how this person is making your work experience miserable. 

Some of you may feel comfortable going to your boss or your teacher and asking them for general advice or help but my advice to you is to not just try and stick it out. If you do that you will end up putting your recovery at risk. Making positive changes in your life is what will set you up for long term success. 

When your performance isn’t valued – knowing when to leave 

What if nothing changes and no matter how hard you try you just keep feeling like you’re treading water. That’s a quite common place to be in when fighting an addiction. Sometimes when you are fighting an addiction you have to think about making big changes and one of those changes may be looking for a new job or a new school especially if your work situation is connected to your addiction in any way. 

When making the decision to find a new job or a new school it’s important to not make any impulsive decisions. Sometimes we can get so worked up about the current situation that we fail to see the bigger picture. But what you can do is start taking the steps you need  to make this change. 

Think about the end result and where you want to be. Do you need to change jobs? If so, what type of job would you be looking for and what steps can you take to do this? Maybe it’s connecting with recruiters, applying for jobs online or talking to people in the industry. Do you need to switch schools if you’re a student? Is it possible to stick it out to the end of the semester while you apply to a different school as opposed to dropping out right now?

Think this through and take action now. New beginnings may be in order. 

Finding the Right Treatment Provider

Your professional career and workplace setting is important and you shouldn’t have to give anything up or take any steps backwards just because of your past experiences and in fact, when tackling certain situations head on while stopping your addiction may actually help  your career or education soar. You should never feel as though your addiction is a burden so by knowing your options and where to go,  you are setting yourself up for greater success. If you are looking for an alternative to inpatient treatment or outpatient treatment for alcohol, drug abuse, or any behavior addiction, check out Live Rehab. We provide online addiction and recovery courses for those who are struggling with any addiction including alcohol dependence and drug abuse. Live Rehab’s Sobriety Success Method uses a holistic approach to addiction recovery that is flexible and tailored to your specific needs. 

Living intentionally is one of the hardest to grasp concepts when struggling with addictive behaviors or substance abuse. We’re going to talk about what it means to live intentionally and how it relates to recovery. To live intentionally you need to be focusing on the body’s physical needs, focusing on living in the now and most importantly the importance of goal setting. Additionally, kindness, empathy and being grateful plays a role in your overall success. Dr. Mcgee, board certified in addiction psychiatry states, “Personal growth and recovery do not happen by accident, but as a byproduct of intentional living.”

What does it mean to live intentionally?

When you struggle with unhealthy behaviors or substance use disorder it’s important you take each day and live each moment with intention.

But what is living with intention all about? Glad you asked.

Intentional living is how you live your own life based on your values and beliefs. I’m not here to tell you how to live your life. 

I am here to help you recognize some of your own deep rooted intentions.

It is about choosing to live in a way defined by your choices. Not your subconscious. Not just going through the motions. 

If you’re in recovery or working on kicking an addiction, being complacent can lead to high-risk situations and relapse. You always need to be on your toes – let me preface this by explaining first, being on your toes doesn’t mean you can’t relax. In fact, we talk a lot about self care and giving your body a chance to relax and recover but there is a difference between calculated relaxation time to just vegging out and not thinking consciously about what your body is going through.

In recovery, everything you do should be done with intention. You should be taking care of your physical body, with intention, your mental health should be taken care of with intention, your relationships need to be thought through with intention. There should be nothing that you do that shouldn’t be without intention.

How does living intentionally help in health and addiction recovery?

A study conducted at an inner-city state-funded residential substance abuse treatment program showed a positive correlation between one’s purpose in life and relapse. Living with intention helps with balance and ability to discover one’s purpose. 

Living with intention can have incredibly positive effects for people in recovery. Living intentionally can bring great results for everyone; not just those who are struggling with an addiction by reducing the impact of stressful situations. LIving intentionally means staying focused, thinking critically about things and making moves that will benefit your overall well being. Living intentionally can help with things like an addiction trigger or drug craving. However, someone who is not struggling with an addiction, can go through periods of times or maybe never live intentionally and the outcome won’t affect them like it would someone who is in recovery. They may not gain the success they want or achieve a goal but it wouldn’t put them at risk for a relapse like someone who is struggling with an addiction. 

For example, my friend Lisa, who does not struggle with an alcohol or drug addiction, can go home from work after a hard day, throw her clothes on the floor, veg out by the television and watch reality TV while eating ice cream all while turning off her brain and won’t have any repercussions. She’ll be able to get up in the morning and go to work and pick up where she left off. 

On the flip side, my friend Matt, who struggles with alcohol, if he were to have a bad day at work and turn off his brain when he got home, like Lisa, he would likely, without even realizing he’s doing it, go to a liquor store or drink whatever liquor is at home, binge until he passes out and then would suffer the repercussions of a relapse. By turning off his brain and not living intentionally he is putting himself in high-risk situations. 

Instead, Matt should go home after a hard day at work, take a long walk with his dog around the neighborhood, and eat a healthy meal. Meditate to reduce the uncomfortable feelings and then turn on the TV and find a show on TV to help him relax. 

You see it’s unrealistic to never have down time or do normal things like watch TV. The difference is that people with addictions need to do all of these things with intention so that his subconscious doesn’t overpower and cause him to make a bad choice. One unintentional action can lead to another which can lead to another which can lead to a relapse and you don’t want that. 

Meeting the body’s physical needs

In recovery it’s super important that you’re making sure you are meeting your body’s physical needs. If you’re not meeting your body’s physical needs then you are going to be at risk for relapse. And this where intentional living comes into major play.

It’s important to make sure you get medical treatment if you have a medical condition or chronic disease. Always make sure to take the advice of a health professional. 

Another physical need you should be aware of is how your body is getting its energy. We know that’s food of course but what kind of food is put into your body to meet your body’s needs? If you fill yourself with junk food, you’re not going to feel very well whereas, if you eat a well balanced healthy diet that is low in sugar you’ll set yourself up for success. In order to be successful with a healthy eating lifestyle you need to eat with intention. Every bite you take should be a conscious bite. Something you know that is going to give your body the vitamins and nutrients it needs to be healthy and strong. When you mindlessly you tend to overeat but when you eat with intention you are much more likely to stop when you are full or when you know your body has had enough. 

Another physical need to meet is fitness. Everybody needs some sort of regular exercise. If you eat well but you’re sitting all day or not moving your body you still won’t feel as good as you would if you incorporate both healthy eating and fitness together. So to do this, you must intentionally get up and move your body. When you turn your brain off, it’s easy to forget to move. Whether you’re at work, at home, or hanging out with family and friends, be sure to incorporate fitness as often as possible. You should be doing this both rigorously (like joining a gym, hiking, biking, etc.) and also passively – so like making conscious choices to take the stairs instead of the elevator or go for a walk outside on your lunch break.

And the last part of meeting your body’s physical needs is making sure you are sleeping the right amount. This means that you must intentionally go to bed every night at a time you set for yourself. If you turn your brain off it’s easy to lose track of time. When you intentionally focus on fitness and nutrition, you’ll also be able to sleep better because of it. 

Focusing on the Now

Focusing on the now is a big part in the whole recovery process. I talk about it often in most of my courses because it’s just that important. 

There is no way to intentionally do things if you’re thinking about the past or worrying about the future. Your mind is somewhere else when you’re not focusing on the now. 

Focusing on the now is a lot harder than most people think. I mean just think about this right this moment, Are you listening to my voice or are you thinking about something else? Bring your attention here and don’t let it wonder. My challenge for you is to see if you can make it through this entire lecture without having your mind drift. Of course your mind is going to wander off though – that’s normal but how fast can you catch it and bring it back – that’s the key. 

So as we continue and talk about things like goal setting and intentionally working through each day, just remember, the moment your mind starts to wonder to gently bring it back to the present moment. Try not to get too frustrated with this task as it takes a lot of patience and time to really master this concept but if you practice as often as you can, at least a few times per day, you’ll start to see the benefits of what it means to be living in the present moment. Anxious feelings will lessen as you won’t be thinking about the past or worrying about what’s coming next because all you have is this moment right here, right now. It is a comfortable experience you are striving for. 

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The Importance of Goal Setting and Structure  

We are all different people and we all have different ideas on how we can live our best possible life. Setting goals and creating structure will give you the opportunity to really work each day on living intentionally to lead productive lives. 

If you’re not working towards something then what are you working for? Everyone has goals but not everyone knows how to set them, set structure and implement the tasks required to acheive those goals. In our next lecture we’ll talk about setting big and/or small goals but for now let’s talk about how to set goals and what to do. I want to give you some examples. 

Something that you can work on this week.  

Example: “I want to be more kind.”  

So for this, you will put that as your goal and every day this week, living intentionally, you would aim to be the kindest person you can possibly be. Be mindful of every interaction you make.

Example: “I want to have a better relationship with my mom.”

For this, maybe you would send your mom a text on Monday and call her on Wednesday. Or perhaps go see her on Friday.  

Example: “I want to take a vacation to the beach.”

For this, maybe on Tuesday you would work out the cost of this trip and then on Friday you would work out how much money you would need to save in order to make this trip happen. You get the idea!

So as you can see, your work is to work backwards and the best way to do this is to set a date that you’d like to achieve the goal and then carve out time each day or week to work towards that goal. But don’t just carve out time, think of it as an outline. You know how when you were in school and you would write a paper, you always started with writing an outline.  You can do that with goal setting. Write an outline or a task list of everything that needs to happen in order for you to reach your goal and be specific. Then on the days or times you set aside to work towards that goal you will know exactly what you need to do. This eliminates the feeling of the task being too big or unsure about where to start. What types of goals do you want to set for yourself?  think big or small

Think Big or Small

I often get the question of how to set goals and should they be big or small? And that’s always a great question and never one size fits all. Really it all depends on where you are in your recovery. 

For example, some of you may have the goal of not partaking in your addiction and that’s a great goal if you’re just starting your recovery journey. But I do caution you to think deeper as you progress through. You shouldn’t just have that one goal forever. 

I want you to think of one goal big or small that you have for your life and write it down; anywhere, on a piece of paper or jot it down in your phone. I know that seems incredibly broad but think of something you’ve always wanted to do or maybe a way you’ve wanted to be.

Now look at that goal. Is it a big goal like going on a vacation or is it a small goal like calling your mom. Either way, a goal is a goal and once you write it down you can then take the steps to put it into action. Really, as long as you’re setting goals you’re making progress no matter how big or small they may seem. And that brings us to our next topic. Setting goals doesn’t have to be addiction related. 

Life Beyond Addiction

Oftentimes, treatment of substance abuse or behaviors encourages people to get stuck in the trap and believe that their entire life revolves around setting addiction goals: How many common triggers can I overcome? There is life beyond addiction.

Recovery is a beautiful thing but it’s important to have balance in your life too. And I say this as again this all really depends on where you’re at in your recovery. If you’re new to recovery then perhaps all of your goals will be recovery related but as you get some time under your belt start thinking of other things. You can combine your goals as well so maybe each week you have one recovery focused goal and one non focused recovery goal. 

For example you might have a goal to get a new job and another goal of making it to 100 days, without partaking in your addiction. Again this is not to say that you should ever lose site or not have your recovery goals in mind, it’s just to say that recovery doesn’t have to feel like it’s the only way or there’s no possibility of ever living a regular life – but regular is subjective too right?

As you progress you’ll start to notice that your goals will become more clear and focused. Just be sure that you are constantly moving forward, setting intentional goals and never losing sight of the bigger picture.  

Recovery and Being Grateful

Living intentionally is one thing but being intentionally grateful can take your recovery experience to a whole different level. It’s not easy being grateful. Most of us have had strong past experiences, some might even have past trauma or have had so many obstacles and unlucky things that have been handed to them. 

But if you can think beyond all that and take time to be intentionally grateful  you’ll surprise yourself on the impact that this can make.

You might feel like there isn’t much to be grateful for, especially early on your recovery but there’s always going to be something you can be grateful for. If you have eyes and can see this course or if you have ears and can hear my voice – those are things you can be greatful for right off the bat. As you progress through your recovery other things will start to come into your love that you can be grateful for. Maybe you start to rebuild and something amazing happens like a new relationship, getting to know your family again, starting a new job, moving to a new home, and so on. As things start to manifest it’s going to be important that you’re not just grateful but you are intentionally taking time each day to reflect and be grateful. Everyone can start with being grateful they are making the choice to kick their addiction or they already have made the choice. 

A good way to start is to write in your journal, Find something, at least one thing per day to be grateful for. 

One of my clients had an especially hard time with this activity and was very resistant. We did this activity together each week and I remember his first entry was that he was grateful that he didn’t have diarrhea. I know that sounds icky but at that moment he was truly grateful for that as his addiction caused him a great amount of stomach pain with irritable bowels. We laughed a little together and as the week’s progressed it was truly amazing how things transpired. AFter about 3 months we ended up reflecting back to week one and even he was surprised that that was the only thing he could think of in the beginning. 

My point is, it doesn’t matter where you start with this activity. Some of you may have a ton of things to be grateful for and that’s wonderful! WRite them down and think about those things daily but if you don’t have a ton of things that’s okay too. Just find one small thing each day. 

Kindness, Empathy, and Giving Back

I know it’s completely cliche to hear what goes around comes around, especially in recovery because everyone has a past but when I think of this phrase I truly believe this as far as coming from a positive intention. When you are kind, empathetic and give back to your community without expecting anything in return, good things will start to happen. LIfe isn’t always tit for tat so for example it’s not you can say oh I’ll be kind today and then get upset when someone cuts you off driving or a cashier is rude to you. This is more of an overall what goes around comes around and it doesn’t happen overnight. 

For example, if you start making changes every day to be more kind than overtime you’ll start to build up your trust with people who you have lost it with in the past. In a few weeks or months you’ll start to notice that your relationships get better and stronger and that’s what I mean by what goes around, comes around. 

I truly believe it starts with kindness, intentionally being kind. It’s a lot easier said than done but really just be nice. Don’t overreact and when someone or something upsets you do your best to stay present, calm and kind, even if you don’t get the same respect in return. It is not good to prove points, to give lessons, and so on. If you find yourself feeling like it’s impossible to say or do something kind in a rough moment, the kindness thing you can do for yourself and the other person is to walk away. Walking away is much better than not being kind. 

Once you start to figure out how to be more kind – and trust me I know this, it’s not something that everyone can do naturally but you can learn and it will come with practice but once you start to figure that part out then it’s important to practice empathy.

Empathy is doing your best to try and put yourself in other people’s shoes. So let’s say you are in a fight with a friend or family member – just remember, everyone has baggage and a history so if you can try and find common ground or relate to them in any way you are practicing empathy. 

Part of being empathetic is also remembering that it’s not always about you. Yes you are going through a lot and yes you deserve to have someone there for you but remember, everyone is human so taking the time to get to know others and understanding their situations is a form of empathy. 

And once you start to make those changes in your life, getting better each day as your recovery is stronger each day you can think about how to give back. Giving back doesn’t have to be the typical things like volunteering at a food bank or whatever, I mean if that’s what you want to do then that’s perfectly fine too but make it your own and something you’ll truly appreciate and enjoy. A lot of people like to give back in areas that have once affected them or things that they feel passionate about whether it’s people, animals, the environment, doesn’t matter just think about that. And it doesn’t have to be big either; it can be small things each day that can truly make a difference. 

Maybe you give a homeless person your apple or pull over when you see an elderly person with a broken down car. Whatever way you want to give back is up to you but once you start living with kindness, empathy and giving back to the world, your life will start to evolve as well. 

Now  I know we’ve covered a lot here and I also recognize that no one person can implement all of these strategies especially at once so let’s now let’s talk about not burning yourself out. 

Don’t Burn Yourself Out 

When struggling with addiction issues and in recovery there’s always so much thrown your way, do this and do that and everything will be great. It’s impossible to implement every single thing you’re supposed to. It takes time, patience and small gradual changes for recovery to be a success. If you go all out too hard, too fast, you will burn out. 

One thing to remember is to not beat yourself up if you can’t fit everything into one day. We talk so much here about making sure your physical health is okay, that you take care of your mental health and all of your social circles. If you struggle with a mental health disorder it’s important to talk to a mental health professional to treat your mental health and disease of addiction at the same time. Behavioral therapy and individual therapy can be a benefit to the continuum of care. 

Remember, recovery is never an overnight success. The goal is to implement what you can each day and for today to be better than yesterday. Living intentionally is a lifelong process. If you forget to journal one day, or if you don’t have the chance to work out, maybe you miss a counseling appointment or forget to take time to set goals, it’s okay! This isn’t about perfection, it’s about longevity and taking things one day at a time. You’ll get stronger each and every day you’ll be able to handle more and more. Your chance of success will increase every day. Eventually you’ll surprise yourself on how much you are actually able to take care of your mind, body and soul. But please, be kind to yourself and if you fall off somewhere, just pick up where you left off. 

Addiction and Recovery Care

If you struggle with substance abuse or a behavior addiction it’s important to find a treatment plan that meets your individual needs. Effective treatment embraces flexibility and uniqueness by using a holistic approach which is exactly what Live Rehab offers. People in recovery deserve a chance to kick their addictions without having to leave their family, pets, friends or work. Traditional treatment centers may not always be the best options and their treatment outcomes are not great. If you struggle with drug or alcohol abuse then Live Rehab could be a solution. Recovery from addiction is possible. 

What is Spirituality in Recovery?

You’re probably wondering if you have to be a spiritual or religious person to hear this. The short answer is no and we’ll talk more about that. If you are used to hearing about 12-step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous then you have likely known that they push spirituality and religion into their program. Here at Live Rehab we do not do this. Your treatment should be unique to you and your experience so the purpose of this is to show you how you can incorporate spirituality into your treatment program in your own way. Recovery from addiction should not have rules or parameters.

Your Addiction Recovery treatment should allow you to explore your own behavior and spiritual beliefs and then you should be able to choose how you want to incorporate your practice into your daily life.

Your Worldview is Your Life Meaning

One aspect of spirituality is your worldview.

Your worldview is how you perceive and experience the world, the way you live your life, your point of view, your philosophy, principles, values, emotions, and ethics. It’s the human experience. All of this plays a significant role in recovery and substance abuse addiction treatment.

The reason this is important is that what you see and do is not how everyone else sees and views things. Everyone has their own unique worldview and spiritual belief and you need to understand that and figure out how to embrace your worldview to benefit your situation.

For example, you may view drugs, alcohol, or porn as problematic as it’s affected your life but your neighbor may view correlate these activities with positive emotions or a way to have fun and relax.  Just because he sees it that way doesn’t mean he’s wrong, it just means it hasn’t affected him in the same ways as it’s affected you. 

So as you work through this, you will run across people in your social network and on the internet who are going to have vastly different opinions on this topic. That doesn’t mean their opinions are wrong or you should ignore them but you will need to take some to self reflect on your values and ethics. What kind of person do you want to be and how has this addiction impacted that? Is it holding you back? 

The Role of Spirituality in Addiction Recovery

According to Dr. Christina Puchalski from the George Washington Institute for Spirituality and Health, “spirituality is the aspect of humanity that refers to the way individuals seek and express meaning and purpose and the way they experience their connectedness to the moment, to self, to others, to nature, and to the significant or sacred.”

Spirituality and religion are big influences in a person’s worldview. A lot of people turn to their religion for support or embrace spirituality. Spirituality is not the same thing as religion so just remember that. You can be both spiritual and religious or you can be spiritual without a religious practice. It’s your choice. 

Reflection can be obtained through actions like journaling, meditation or just being still and living in the moment. It’s important for you to come up with your own unique values and discover what is important to you and then begin to live your life based on your own rule book. This in itself can give you a spiritual experience and can improve your spiritual life.

So I encourage you to take time each day, it can be as little as 5 minutes per day or some people prefer longer sessions of up to an hour, to get to know your own self and from this moment forward, making sure your actions come from what you are and who you want to be. It’s a process and you will grow as time goes on and as you are able to increase the amount of time you spend on self discovery. You will overtime reap the benefits of your spiritual progress. 

Do I have to be a spiritual person to hear this?

In a BACP article, Peter Hillan writes, “There is a wealth of literature, mostly from the US, on the relationship between religion, spirituality and problematic substance use. Much of the evidence seems to suggest that, as religious or spiritual practices increase, substance use decreases: ‘[the] widespread belief that spirituality is important in recovery is consistent with findings to date”.

So, again, do you need to be spiritual in recovery to hear this?

No, absolutely not. And that’s because spirituality and your worldview  is not what you might think it is and in fact, it’s so broad you might surprise yourself and realize you’re more spiritual than you think. The official definition of spirituality is this: the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things.

Now you might be thinking well I don’t believe in spirits so let’s break that down even further. If you look at the definition of spirit the non-physical part of a person which is the seat of emotions and character; the soul.

So we all have character, we all have attitudes or moods – things we can’t touch. So if you go back to the definition of spirituality it’s being concerned with those things you can’t touch rather than those things you can. 

So really spirituality is what you make of it. It’s connecting with your inner self or higher power if you have one. And once you start to practice more self care and being in tune with your inner soul then you’ll start to really feel things you never knew you were capable of feeling which is super important when in recovery. Being in tune with your own self. So let’s dive into that topic – why spirituality in addiction recovery and sobriety is important

Why Spirituality is Important in Recovery

Spirituality – whatever that means to you – is very important especially if you’re tackling an addiction. Spirituality in addiction treatment programs provides hope and meaning. It gives you somewhere to turn when it feels like nobody else is really understanding or able to get you. It helps you get more in tune with your own self, feelings, and connections to the world. As humans we all have the desire to be connected in a non physical sense. When you’re in recovery or trying to beat an addiction, spirituality can help you get further and can help you stay grounded when times get really tough. 

For example, if you have a solid spiritual practice in place – like meditation, prayer, video, yoga, exercise, deep breathing, journaling doesn’t matter what it is, but if you practice every day then if you feel triggered one day yet take that time to connect with yourself you’ll have a better chance at being able to overcome that trigger. 

Spirituality in recovery gives you purpose and when in recovery it can be difficult to know what that purpose is – sometimes it starts with just a feeling and that’s why it’s important to try to understand your own spiritual connectedness so that you have something you can turn to whenever you need. Something that is always there, something that’s not physical or dependent on anything other than your own self and mind. 

Spirituality VS. Religion

A lot of times when we talk about spirituality, people often mistake that as talking about religion. You can be religious and have a spiritual practice and you can be not religious and have a spiritual practice. But just because you are religious does not necessarily mean you are a spiritual person. 

The official definition of religion is: the belief in and worship of a superhuman controlling power, especially a personal God or gods. Now some people go to church every Sunday, believe in God, and practice a religion – whatever that religion means to them. At the same time, things like prayer and having that divine connection with God is what would be the spiritual side of religion. 

But some of you may not practice a religion. You may not go to church or even believe in God – you can still have a spiritual practice though. You can connect with something higher than yourself or you can connect with just you – your inner soul. It’s whatever works for you. 

So if you’re spiritual and you practice a religion – great. Faith is important especially in recovery. 

If you’re not a religious person there’s no need to feel like you have to be religious for the sake of recovery or fighting an addiction. Just do what feels right for you. Let’s talk more about that – how to find what feels right for you. 

Practice What Feels Right For You

A spiritual journey is a process and definitely not one size fits all. For some of you, your spiritual practice may be digging deeper into what you already do – for instance if you pray to God or a higher power, it’s honing in on that and stepping up your commitment during your recovery. For others it may start from scratch, figuring out where you fit in all this. It’s okay to take it slow but it’s important to do spiritual work every day. It may be going to church or church group, maybe more prayer, you could focus on meditation more. If you’re unsure where to start, start with some youtube videos and maybe something will click or something will resonate with you. I once had a student who said they weren’t spiritual – they were atheists and they only believe in science. I challenged them to watch more science and nature videos, documentaries, and then gave them the task to go outside and connect with the world – the trees, the sky, the clouds, the sun. After a few weeks they were amazed at how they thought that the whole spiritual piece of this wouldn’t fit but in reality because they had the flexibility to do it on their own terms the way they felt they could benefit, they realized that their spiritual practice was connected with science. And you can do that too. It’s important to make sure that whatever you decide to do doesn’t feel forced or fake in any way. 

If you’re new to spirituality then try a lot of different things until something clicks. Like you could try different churches, different types of meditations, yoga classes, youtube videos, whatever works. And it’s always okay to abandon something if it stops working or doesn’t feel good. Spirituality is about the process and not about the to-do list – it’s not like I’ve meditated today, check, when in reality you’re just meditating to get it over with. If that’s what you’re feeling then try something else.

The reason it’s important to understand your worldview is so that you can be more in tune with yourself. When you are more in tune with yourself you will be able to then in turn have more empathy for other people and this is a big step in being able to navigate your social relationships. These are the benefits of spirituality.

How You Can Be More In Tune With Yourself and Your Behavior

Being in tune with yourself isn’t easy and definitely doesn’t come naturally. It takes work and the ability to be self-aware. One thing to think about is whether or not you’re actually living in the present  moment or are you constantly thinking about your past or what comes next? Think about this very moment. ARe you listening to my voice or are you thinking about your to-do list – housework, stuff going on at work, your friends, family drama. LIving in the now, in this moment, is a good first step to being more in tune with yourself. 

Think of this as like getting to know someone that you don’t really know. Now is the perfect time to do this. As you progress through your recovery you are going to be a different person and you need to get to know that person – what do you really like? What are you passionate about? What irritates you? What do you love? 

Start today by recognizing when your mind starts to wander and bring it back to the present moment. It sounds easy but as you move on through the day I think you’ll be surprised how difficult this little task actually is. This is especially true when you have a lot going on around you. I know most people are busy with work, school, parenting, friends, family and so on. Being on auto-pilot is naturally how humans progress through the day. It takes concentration and determination to train your mind to live more presently but once you are able to do this often, you will see how big of an impact this can have on your overall physical health, mental health and ability to control social situations. 

Incorporating Meditation into Your Life

One way to help speed up the process is to start a meditation practice. You can find free videos on youtube, spotify or itunes. But if you take time out every day you’ll learn how to incorporate the now into your everyday life. Hundreds of thousands of people have used mindfulness meditation as a tool to combat negative emotions. Meditative practices have been proven to help regulate emotions which is helpful in reducing triggers and managing impulse control. Meditation doesn’t have to be long or hard. You can start by doing 5-10 minutes per day and then work your way up. If you can swing an app, that’s usually very helpful so you can track your progress. Most people tend to have preferences when it comes to their meditative practices and just like what we’ve been talking about here, it’s about this understanding that not everyone needs or wants the same things. So you may prefer short guided meditations while someone else may prefer longer unguided meditations. You’ll never know your own preferences unless you try a variety of methods. I usually tell my students to take the first two weeks and try different things; different meditations, laying down, sitting up, eyes open, eyes closed, walking meditations etc. and you’ll find your own preference that provides you with positive mediational effects as you explore.  Meditation can help you explore meaning in life and has also been shown to help with mental health disorders and help physically like lowering blood pressure and increasing the quality of sleep you get.

Your Recovery Journey

Thanks for being here and pushing through this topic. It’s not an easy discussion especially for those in active addiction and definitely very sensitive as everyone has the right to feel the way they want to feel and believe what they want to believe, or what’s true to their own heart. Spirituality in recovery is just about that – it’s connecting with the divine or your true inner self. Knowing that everyone else has a slightly different worldview can also be helpful when confronting family and friends and can be impactful in avoiding conflict and creating empathy. Remember, context is everything in situations and unless someone is literally inside your head knowing what you see, what you’ve seen, and how you think they will likely not ever be able to get the full picture and being okay with that is an important part of recovery. It’s how you grow as a person and how you are able to create space between your thoughts and feelings and your actions or what you say to people. I know it’s easier said than done but like everything else the more practice you put in the better you will get at being able to control the things you say and do in a way that positively contributes to a healthy recovery.                                        

If you are looking for an addiction and recovery treatment program that isn’t 12-steps like Alcoholics Anonymous then check out Live Rehab. We use a holistic approach towards sobriety and kicking addictions. If you struggle with a behavior addiction or substance use disorder like alcohol addiction and want something that is flexible, our program offers just that. Not everyone needs or is able to attend a traditional in-patient or outpatient formal treatment center.   Live Rehab is an opportunity for people who struggle with drug or alcohol treatment and need more of an individualized treatment and aftercare plan.                                                                                                                                          

When people struggle with an addiction, the first thing they are likely to notice is how their mental health suffers. A lot of people develop mental health disorders in addition to their addiction either during their use or after they detox while others may have been already struggling with their mental health prior to their addiction. Either way, those who struggle with co-occurring substance abuse problems, or have a dual diagnosis, need to know how important it is to take care of their mental health to achieve a strong recovery.

Co-Occurring Disorder or Dual Diagnosis

Guest editor for the Journal of Dual Diagnosis, Dr. Francisca Filbey, showed how numerous peer reviewed studies indicated correlations between cannabis and alcohol use and conduct disorders and strong evidence that shows cannabis use increases psychosis risk. 

According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, there is a strong link between substance use disorders and anxiety disorders which includes generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder. The National Institute on Drug Abuse also stated that substance use disorders also co-occur at high prevalence with mental disorders, such as depression and bipolar disorder, hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), psychotic illness, borderline personality disorder, and antisocial personality disorder.

So whether or not you struggle with mental health conditions or mental illness such as Anxiety, Compulsive Disorder, Depression, Bipolar Disorder, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or at risk of psychosis due to your substance use, this information will help with the recovery process. Some people who have symptoms of substance use disorder are unsure if they need professional mental health care so we’ll go over the 30 day test and then we will walk you through on how to find a mental health professional if you need one.

What Exactly Is the Relationship Between Addiction and Mental Illness?

There’s this thing in the addiction treatment community called the chicken or the egg theory. We talk about this when we talk about co-occurring disorder or dual diagnosis. A co-occuring disorder or dual diagnosis is when someone is diagnosed with a mental health disorder as well as a substance use disorder. The reason we call it the chicken or the egg theory is because we don’t always know.

What comes first: Substance abuse or the mental health problem?

Did you start using drugs or alcohol to escape from something or to band-aid a mental disorder in childhood, teen years or early adulthood such as depression or anxiety? Or did using drugs or alcohol cause you to struggle with mental health struggles which is a common issue.

Sometimes you just don’t know and that’s okay too, especially if you started at a very young age. For example, a 12 year old may not know that smoking weed helps them feel calmer because they have ADHD. But for this, try and think back to when you first started doing drugs or drinking alcohol. What was going on in your mind during that point in your life? Were you previously struggling with anxiety, depression, etc?  If not, you likely just started experimenting for the sake of experimenting and that’s completely normal too. Lots of kids, teens and adults do that. However, if something was going on, think back to how you felt once you started drinking or doing drugs. Did you start to feel better? If that’s the case then you likely had a mental health struggle prior to your drug addiction or alcohol abuse and your mental health struggle was the likely cause of you wanting to keep going back and using. It makes sense right? Consciously or subconsciously using drugs or alcohol helps you feel better and who doesn’t want to feel better?

However, if nothing was going on prior but you started to experience mental health struggles after your drug and alcohol use it’s possible that the drugs or alcohol brought them on. That is common as well. It is important to think back and recognize this because if you’re in the latter – the part where your drug and alcohol use caused you to struggle mentally then there’s a good chance that by just stopping using your mental health struggles will start to dissipate. That’s not alway the case for everyone but it’s something you can try for. But if you had mental struggles prior to using drugs or alcohol then it’s unlikely that stopping drugs or alcohol will help. In fact, if you don’t get effective treatment for your mental health it’ll likely turn into this vicious cycle. You’ll stop using but by doing so you’ll struggle with whatever is going on that you’ve been putting  a bandaid on for so long and oftentimes those struggles are so unbearable that they cause a relapse. For example, if you struggled with anxiety and quitting drinking gives you more anxiety you’ll be almost forced to continue to drink until you get mental health treatment for your anxiety.

Why Mental Health Disorders Coexist With Substance Use

If you are already struggling with a mental health condition or have a mental health diagnosis then it’s important that you treat that at the same time as your addiction.. You’re going to need possible treatment with the help of a mental health professional.

According to an article on mentalhealth.gov  studies have shown that more than one in four adults, 25 percent,  living with serious mental health problems also have a substance use problem.

Here’s Why Dual Diagnosis Treatment is Important

You can go into treatment and recovery from a substance use disorder by simply not drinking or taking any mind altering substances. That’s great if that happens and for some, that’s all that’s needed to live a productive healthy life. But for others, there’s much more to it than that.

If you have a diagnosis of a mental disorder and you leave it untreated, you are putting your sobriety at risk of substance misuse relapse every day. If you are sober but still feel like shit whether you’re dealing with a symptom of a mood disorder, depression, anxiety, ADHD, psychotic disorder whatever it is, stopping the use of drugs and alcohol will not stop those symptoms too unless your mental health struggles were caused by  your substance use and abuse, like we talked about earlier.

But if you think that you can just ignore your mental health and not using drugs or alcohol will be the answer, the chances are very slim that you’ll obtain a life of sobriety or sustained recovery. So please, really think this through and if you want a life that is free, enjoyable and productive then you must treat your addiction and mental health at the same time.

But now, after talking about all of this, what if you’re still unsure? You really truly don’t know what’s going on with your mental health and whether or not this is a symptom of your substance use or abuse. Let’s talk now about the 30 day test.

Unsure if you have a Co-occurring Disorder? Take the 30 day test.

Oftentimes, in the beginning of sobriety, people go through the honeymoon phase. This means that patients after detox they feel quite well, ambitious, and energetic. But then once real life starts to set back in, a symptom may start to appear, triggers or post acute withdrawal syndrome starts and may begin to come on super strong. This is one of the main reasons for relapse. But if you’re armed with the knowledge of what to expect you can prevent this.

So, the 30 day test is this. If you stop your behavior or substance use for 30 days and you don’t have any major mental health struggles other than withdrawal symptoms then you’re likely okay to just keep on doing what you’re doing and continuing to take care of your mental health by doing things from home like engaging in self-care, talking to friends and family about your feelings, journaling, or meditation. . However, if after 30 days of abstaining from your addiction you still have mental health struggles or any symptom of anxiety, depression, thoughts of suicide, and so on then it’s important that you make an appointment with a mental health professional.

Mental health symptoms will not go away on their own. It’s not worth the risk for substance use relapse and you’ll find yourself going through this vicious cycle over and over again until you treat the root cause and that is why you’ll need to talk to a health care provider. they may give you a diagnosis or go over your options for care. You need to take action and take charge so that you can also obtain a life free from your addiction. 

How to find a mental health professional in your area and what to expect. 

So now that we’ve talked about how important it is to tackle your mental health treatment at the same time as your addiction let’s talk about how to go about finding a mental health professional to get a possible diagnosis.

There are many ways you can talk to a professional. The first thing you’ll want to do is decide what kind of professional you need.

Some people start with counseling. Counseling is a good way to get professional help if you’re struggling with things that are currently going on. Let’s say you’re dealing with the death of a loved one, having a hard time being a parent, or maybe you are having problems in your marriage. A counselor is there to counsel, to give professional advice. 

Some of you may prefer a therapist. A therapist will provide you with therapy. There are different types of therapy that therapists can offer but in the grand scheme of things, a therapist will be able to treat psychological problems through therapy. So for example, if you are dealing with past trauma, severe anxiety, depression, etc. you may need therapy. Therapists do not prescribe medication, they are skilled in a specific niche such as psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, family therapy, etc. You just need to do some research to find out what type of therapy may be best for you.

Then there are psychiatrists. Psychiatrists treat a psychiatric disorder through the use of prescription medication. . In order for a psychiatrist to prescribe medication though, their patients need to have a diagnosed psychiatric disorder and just because the medication isn’t an illegal drug, there is still a strong risk factor associated with addiction. With that being said, medication management may also be needed specifically if you are diagnosed with Opioid Use Disorder.

If you’re unsure about what you need, many behavioral health centers offer what is called a mental health intake. A mental health intake is done by a mental health professional and it’s where you go in and sit down with someone for an hour or two and they’ll ask you questions and then give their professional advice on what they think you may need for a diagnosis.

Now, once you decide what kind of mental health support you need, you’ll need to figure out how to find a professional and what is covered. If you are located in the United States you’ll want to contact your insurance company to see what’s available. Most insurance companies do provide some sort of mental health care but it may depend on your diagnosis if you have one. If you’re outside of the United States you’ll want to see what’s covered by your country’s health care or your private insurance plan.

Once you know what’s covered you can usually ask your insurance company to provide you with some referrals and then start making calls. When you make the calls be sure to ask about any hidden fees or copays and make sure it’s what you can afford or what’s within your budget. 

You’ll know a lot about a place by how they handle their front office and your initial contact with them. If you call and get a rude receptionist that’s a big red flag because it doesn’t matter how good the therapist or counselor is, if you can’t ever get through to them or have to deal with unprofessional office staff then that would just add more stress than what it’s worth. It’s also recommended that you read reviews online from other patients who have had a similar diagnosis or mental illness.

Be picky about who you choose. If you go to a few appointments and it’s just not working don’t feel bad about terminating your care to find someone else. You have to do what’s best for you and trust me on this, you will eventually find what’s best for you.  But whatever you do, don’t give up on this. Keep working at it until you get the results you deserve. 

Taking care of your mental health (self-care, etc.) 

Taking care of your mental health should always be a priority for everyone. You should think of this on the same lines of how taking care of your physical health is important. 

So there are things you can do proactively and in your everyday life to make sure your mental health is where it needs to be. 

You’ve likely heard about self care and how important it is for every person on this planet but what is self-care and how does that help your mental health?

Self-care looks different for everyone and what you do depends on what your mind, body and soul need in certain situations or periods in your life. A solid self care plan has been shown to reduce anxiety, depression and can lift your overall mood and ability to cope with day to day situations. 

So you need to start thinking about what you can do for self care and this should be something you incorporate into your daily routine. For some of you it may be simple like taking time every night to read a book or take a bubble bath. Some of you may find yoga or meditation to be what you need. Your plan should be something that works and something you genuinely enjoy, not something you do every day just to tick a box. If you hate yoga but love to swim then swim. Some people make it super simple like take time to watch funny movies while others may need massages, manicures or facials to really take care of themselves. Remember, this can be tailored to your personal situation, your budget and what you genuinely enjoy. Don’t skip the self-care. It’s important and you deserve it. 

Questions about Addiction treatment?

If you are dealing with a co-occurring mental health disorder or dual diagnosis you can learn how to treat your addiction at the same time. At Live Rehab, we know not everyone has the opportunity to enter a treatment center and that is why we created a platform with addiction courses that you can take on your own time, creating your own road to recovery. Treatment for addiction should be tailored to your specific needs. If you struggle with mental illness and already have a health care provider then it’s important to continue with your treatment provider as well as a treatment program for your addiction to get holistic proper treatment. Our program is not meant to replace mental health care but a resource you can use in addition to the professional care you are receiving to strengthen your road to recovery through an ongoing process. Our program consists of over 20 online addiction courses, 4 hours of recovery meditations, monthly masterminds, Q&A, outside referrals by use of a searchable database and we help anyone with any addiction including substance and alcohol addiction and behavioral addictions.