“Come on you can have just one drink”
I hear this over and again.
Ever since I stopped drinking people don’t invite me out anymore, call me weird and just can’t understand why I don’t drink.
I want to be sober because I want to live the best possible life I can. And alcohol messes that up.
I’m like Tom Cruise. Because not drinking in today’s society is basically Mission Impossible.
The problem is that now I don’t fit in with most people, workplaces or even my own family.
Every time I’m out with other people they have questions about my sobriety or make comments about their own habits.
“You never come to happy hours.”
“I don’t drink that much.”
“I just drink on the weekends.”
Looking back that’s probably why I started Live Rehab with my partner.
We were talking the other day about this exact thing, “People aren’t going to understand are they?”
I replied, “Nope. But we have to keep on trying anyway.”
She paused, then laughed, “There has got to be other people like us right?”
When we’re looking to help people through Live Rehab we look for people who want to live the same kind of life.
Fathers who don’t want to wake up hungover anymore.
Mom’s who are sick of drinking around their kids.
Athletes who can’t risk they professional careers by drinking too much.
Hollywood celebrities that aren’t interested in traditional rehab.
Because there is nothing better than finally getting sober and living the best life possible.
The key is to know you’re in the right.
Then live it consciously.
Porn Addiction – The Male Perspective
Male porn actors are speaking out about the pressures of the adult entertainment industry. We talked about the history of porn already but that doesn’t mean that things are not constantly changing still. The evolution of the porn industry, like many other industries, is a constant upping the game concept. Two people having sex isn’t enough anymore. There’s so much more that goes into shooting the scenes in a way to just keep up.
Forbes did an interview with a retired porn star: Christopher Zieschegg. I will give you a link to the interview if you want to read it. Christopher stated that he became reliant on erectile dysfunction drugs as did many performers and developed a condition called priapism which is something that happens when the penis stays erected for long periods of time. It is a very painful and dangerous condition.
Most male porn stars use the drugs both orally and as an injection right to the penis so when you watch porn, just know that their penises and extremely hard erections are not that big and never were.
Male porn stars cannot make a career out of being an actor because after just a few short years, the work becomes both physically and mentally draining. Let alone, the impact it has on their own personal relationships.
Considering how many genres of porn are out there on the internet, it should be known that some of the industry may have strict testing policies while others, more amateur or underground agencies may not have a policy at all. Typically speaking most well known agencies will have, due to a law or just because, their actors and actresses tested once per month for HIV and STIs. Does that stop the spread of gonorrhoea, chlamydia, syphilis and other STIs? Hell no it doesn’t and there are many reasons for this.
Want to know if porn addiction is ruining your sex life? Complete these assignments to find out!
Take a few moments and journal some answers to the following questions
- Observe porn stars and their touching relationship between each other. What did you notice about their intimacy (not sex) toward each other. Did it portray real and true intimacy? Explain your thoughts.
- Think – what emotional barriers did you have prior to watching and becoming addicted to porn?
- Consider – what emotional barriers do you currently have?
- Act – what steps are you going to take to break through your emotional barriers?
I am a terrible runner and exerciser. For a while I did Crossfit only to injure myself halfway through the year. My feet are in terrible shape and I pay for it with every run. Pushups are the devil for me and pullups are a close second. Just this morning I was panting, wheezing and hating every single moment of my workout.
I’m telling you this because you need to hear it. Being physically active in your recovery is incredibly, incredibly important. Did I mention it was incredibly important? You need to find anyway that you can to be moving, grooving, shaking or lifting. Personally, I love the feeling of throwing heavy weights around in a gym but my partner prefers the feeling of running.
Exercise has been shown to improve the lives of people who are in recovery, battling addiction or mental health issues. Many studies report that exercise helps in rewiring the parts of the brain that reward us for those bad habits we have previously enjoyed so much. If we can rewire those parts of the brain then perhaps we have a chance at beating this.
Going back to yesterdays post on Intenional Living and Visioning, I’d include putting some time in to your visions that are specifically focused on health and exercise.
On a more personal note, I’ve decided to start including the number of days we’ve accumulated in sobriety. It’s not meant to be a badge of honour but a reminder that the journey is continuous and that confidence can be a silent threat (more on this in tomorrow’s post!). As of now, here at Live Rehab we’re 2327 days sober.
How many days has it been for you? Even if it is just 1,2 or 3 – that’s still a massive win.
To your recovery,
Today we’re talking about intentions versus resolutions. Everyone’s pretty familiar with the concept of New Year’s resolutions. For a lot of people, they can be very helpful; they can help you get in shape, they can help you potentially fall in love, they can help you to pick up an exercise habit for instance.
However, they don’t necessarily set you up for the exact kind of outcomes that you are looking for. In the sobriety world, it’s incredibly important that you are an active participant and a person who sets their intentions for what they want to achieve in their sobriety. That’s an important distinction to make and it’s one that we encourage people to spend some time and effort doing.
Yesterday we talked about gratitude and developing an attitude of gratitude. Here are just a few of the things that people were thankful for from yesterday’s post. Big thanks to everyone who participated by the way!
- My cat
- My mum
- being able to afford to eat
- my music
- 5th New Years Day in a row without a hangover!
- A warm dry place to sleep
- Food to eat
- Clothes to wear
- People i love and who love me
- Good health for me and my family
The reason we bring up yesterday’s post because today we’re talking about this concept of intention. Setting your intentions for what you want your life to be like enables you to build a very clear picture in your mind of what that ends up being for you.
It’s an important distinction between a resolution which is kind of a one-off thing that you achieved or it’s a state that you can get to. An intention is more about setting something into the world that you want to achieve and having the universe come back to you with the exact conditions needed for you to be a success.
You can set intentions in a couple of different ways. The most obvious way that a lot of people are probably familiar with is the concept of visioning. Visioning is an incredibly powerful way to set some intentions for your life; especially in sobriety. If you’re already in sobriety or in recovery and you haven’t set your intentions we would challenge you to examine the type of life you’re leading and whether or not it’s what you envisioned it would be.
Many people have never envisioned what that life will look like! So they end up living a life that they weren’t necessarily interested in living to begin with.
Through the process of intentional living, you can begin to see dynamic changes in your own life manifested in ways you never thought possible. Live Rehab is a perfect example where we’ve set our intentions early on that our life in sobriety was going to be fun and exciting while giving back to the community in various ways.
Things continue to happen for us and we’re now living that life because we set those intentions and the universe has responded by delivering situations like the Steemit community for instance.
Another way that you can set intentions is that you can spend time writing down things that you want to accomplish 3, 5, 10 years down the road.
These can be very specific. In fact, the more specific you can get on these things the more likely they are to come back to you in the exact manner or way you expect them to. So we would definitely encourage you to be extremely detailed in these.
We specifically exclude the first three years because the first three years are often the most difficult to get through in sobriety.
By focusing on the long-term vision and the long-term plan for yourself you end up getting into a situation where you’re much more in tune with what the future has to offer.