Addiction is such a complex topic. Nobody wants to be addicted to drugs and alcohol. Addiction seems to creep up and oftentimes, the person is wondering how they ended up in the situation to begin with.
When someone you love and care about has an addiction it can be hard to stay calm and encouraging. I don’t believe family or friends should be subjected the abuse that addicts sometimes unintentionally force upon them but remember this: two wrongs, don’t make a right.
If you really want to help someone who is addicted, it’s important to be their rock and know when to walk away. There’s so much gray area but one thing that should never ever happen, is the belief that shaming someone will only help. People who are addicted to drugs and alcohol will not take shaming well and more often than not, feeling shame leads to a path of self destruction. So what can you do if you find yourself spouting off shameful insults to someone who is struggling? Here are some tips:
- Understand it’s not about you
- Show true compassion and empathy
- Don’t take it personally – people say and do horrible things when they are not in the right frame of mind.
- Take care of yourself first – make sure you have the energy to stay calm
- Know when to walk away. Walking away is far better than resorting to shame